I am a Conscious parenting coach whose work is deeply inspired by the teachings of Dr Shefali Tsabary, author of three books, including award-winning New York Times bestselling book The Conscious Parent. Dr Shefali has been featured on Oprah Winfrey's SuperSoul Sunday and Oprah's Lifeclass. I incorporate her philosophies and wisdom in my coaching practise.
I am a practicing mindful parent who has a deep compassion for helping others.
I studied Psychology at the University of Western Ontario. My current focus has been on merging Western psychology with the teachings of Eastern philosophy. I have completed numerous workshops in MBSR and MBCT (effective, evidence-based methods for reducing symptoms of stress, anxiety and depression) and incorporate mindfulness into my daily way of life. I have worked at CAMH (the centre for addictions and mental health) and have recently completed workshops with Tara Brach, Dr Daniel Siegel and Dr. Shefali Tsabary (all thought leaders in the world of conscious and mindful living).
As the parent of 2 spirited boys (8 and 13) I have experienced similar problems to those many face today and I have learned that in order to empower our children and raise them to be confident, resilient, and empowered we must first be willing to look at ourselves in the mirror. It's crucial to become aware of our own triggers, fears and unresolved childhood issues so that they does not spill over onto our children. With this awareness comes a growing ability to tolerate both our own and our children's emotions (particularly the negative ones) and detach from their volatility.
What Does It Really Mean To Look In The Mirror?
It's the ability to look inward to learn more about the belief systems guiding our internal compass (behaviours, thoughts and actions)and the emotional baggage that we bring to our daily interactions with others. Entering into silence and taking the time to pause gives us an opportunity to observe our thoughts without reacting to them. If we pause with conscious awareness we can learn to ask important questions like “what is really going on here? what does my child really need from me now in this moment, why am I feeling triggered or activated?”
Often when we ask ourselves these questions, we learn that we feel triggered not by the behaviour of the child but rather by the emotions that the child’s behaviour elicits in us such as FEAR, FEELINGS OF UNWORTHINESS, ANXIETY and THE NEED FOR CONTROL.
Every parent needs to exercise mindfulness in the present moment, no matter how old their child. Mindfulness as it pertains to parenting is the awareness that we come with our own emotional baggage and we need to be aware of it so that it doesn't spill over on to our children.
Following years of mindfullness training, conscious parenting training, and my own meditation practice, I began coaching parents privately and have never looked back. It's an absolute honor and privilege to work with parents helping them to succeed at the most important job they’ll ever have.